5 Things You Should Never Say to Someone with an Anxiety Disorderadmin July 18, 2018 0 COMMENTS
All humans experience anxiety it is part of our genetic makeup in order to survive danger or sense pending danger. People with anxiety disorders don’t get better over night and can worsen if not treated. Anxiety can cripple people in the workplace, home, and hurt relationships.
5 Things You Should Never Say to Someone with an Anxiety Disorder
All humans experience anxiety it is part of our genetic makeup in order to survive danger or sense pending danger. People with anxiety disorders don’t get better over night and can worsen if not treated. Anxiety can cripple people in the workplace, home, and hurt relationships. Sometimes anxiety is accompanied with depression or other mental disorders. “Anxiety disorders can adversely affect quality of life, mobility, education, employment, social functioning, health care, and physical well being,” The Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute of Maryland reported. Although the directional sequence of co-morbidity varies, a primary anxiety disorder often contributes to secondary depression or substance abuse.”
“Calm down, it is not that bad.” People with the disorder really can’t control anxiety, so making that assumption or telling them to relax makes it worse. Instead of condemning or questioning the person suffering, try offering solid suggestions.
Telling someone to be happy dismiss their feelings, and that they should have control over their emotions. This is a mental disorder—not a choice. “Be Happy” makes the person feel like they are at fault. Think about a time when someone said that to you when they glossed over your feelings.
I’ve Been There
Really, have you? It feels good to have someone empathize with you or relate. But having an anxiety attack is not the same as you being nervous on a first date. Help them see what they can control, and to shift energy in that area.
It’s in Your Head
“It’s all in your head.” Wow, if you really went there, you need therapy, really. That is so harsh and damaging. Let them talk to you about the way they are feeling. “The distinction between an anxiety disorder and just having normal anxiety is whether your emotions are causing a lot of suffering and dysfunction,” Sally Winston, PsyD, shared with Health.com.
People with anxiety tend to become overwhelmed easy. When you are trying to teach them something, and you’re losing patience with them take a step back. Encourage them that they can figure xyz out, and support them until they do. There is a tendency to say “Don’t worry,” but this is interpreted that hyper awareness is not valid, or they are just an oddity.